I was out with a student and he was watching me do a demo and getting this super cute red-head all hot and flustered in her panties and after I got her phone number, I walked over to him and broke down the set. I was telling him what I did, why I did it, why it worked, what I said to her and what she said to me… And as I was breaking down my Game to him, I said something that I’ve never said before. It was a huge Ah-ha moment for both me and him. I kinda felt like the Albert Einstein of Pick-Up and I knew that I needed to share this with my readers as I think if they(YOU) can adopt this mentality and think of cold-approach pick-up in these terms you might be able to have some more success.
It all boils down to a concept that once understood will re-frame your way of thinking about Pick-Up and what your goal actually is.
PIck-Up can be summed up in one simple term. It’s a term that truly encompasses everything about Pick Up that you need to know. If you can remember this when you’re out sarging, it will certainly change everything.
It’s…. State Management
Essentially we are trying to become better “State Managers”!
Think about it for a moment…
When you walk up to a woman and you are trying to attract her, all that you are doing is eliciting a certain “state” from her. If you’re losing her, you raise her state to get back into you. If she “shit tests” you, you reply in a certain way that either raises or detracts from her current state.
If you’re battling approach anxiety, you’re in a bad state of mind. The way out of this mind-set is to get yourself into a better state! A state that is more empowering and confident!
If you’re back at your place with a chick and it’s about to get pretty hot and heavy… You’re both in a sexual state. If she’s putting up some LMR(last minute resistance) she’s in a state that’s not allowing her to say yes to herself to have sex with you and your job is to change her state of mind from a “NO’ to a “YES”!
If you find yourself in flirting war with a woman, you’re raising her state.
If you’re in deep-rapport with a woman, you’re eliciting another state from her. A state of connectedness and closeness and trust.
Come to think of it, I can’t really think of any area of pick-up that isn’t “state” related.
When you kino, you’re raising her state into a more sexual one. If she’s friend zoned you, she doesn’t view you as a sexual option for her which is just a state of mind that she’s in. That’s why we do certain things to try and get “un-friend-zoned”. I.E. Changing her state.
And some states are harder to change than others but certainly not impossible.
We are all just becoming better managers of state! Learn to properly manage another persons state, and the world is yours. Learn to manage your state at will and miracles will happen.
Think of motivational speakers… They are professional state raisers!
Guys who are great with women are just better able to manage a woman’s state as well as their own.
Next time you’re out picking-up chicks, take a close look at what state you creating in her… and try to calibrate accordingly. If she’s low energy, raise her state. If she’s only somewhat interested in you, raise her state…
Please share your thoughts and lemme know if you agree or disagree. I love hearing from you guys! Hope you all are having an awesome Summer and getting laid.