We’ve all been on a date and the bill gets dropped on your table and there comes a moment of awkwardness(At least for the guy) about who should pay… personally, I think that assumption that a man should be responsible to pay the bill is utter and complete bullshit!
After all, just because we asked a girl out on a date to get to know her better doesn’t mean any sort of financial commitment, does it? Hell no… I’ve actually had women ask me out on a date and than expect me to pay for them. WTF???
Does paying for her night of free drinks and food make men look any better in her eyes? If it did, than we’d always be getting laid for just paying for the bill, wouldn’t we? But the sad fact is that women don’t fuck guys just because he pays for her and it doesn’t make him more attractive in her eyes either. There’s either sexual chemistry or there isn’t. She wants to hook up with or she doesn’t and paying the bill isn’t going to stack the odds in your favor. Believe me on this!
So… What should we do and how can we avoid always paying for her?
Here’s a few things to consider, that I do…
Go for drinks and not dinner!!!! Dinner is always a bad idea anyway… When you get to the bar, say to the girl… “I’ll buy the first round, you get the second round. Deal?” She’ll always say ok! And make her pay for the second round! Don’t be a pussy!
Now… there will be times where a woman will say… “But, I’m used to the guy paying and taking me out.” If you hear these words, say this and nothing else!!!!!!!!
“And I’m used to getting a blowjob for paying… It’s up to you!”
Here’s something else that I do….
If I’m at a place where we can’t order rounds of drinks and it’s going to be put on a check… What I’ll do is, when the check arrives I’ll ask the girl if she has a quarter… She always says “Yeah. Why?”. Then I tell her that “We’re going to flip the quarter to see who pays for who. If it lands on heads, I pay. If it lands on tails you pay! Orrrrrrrr we can just split it so it’s fair!” It works like magic! I promise… I’ve actually had to flip that quarter a few times and sometimes I pay and sometimes she pays but in either scenario you’re not the chump who automatically assumes he’s paying which is far better than trying to buy you’re way into her pants.
Dating can be expensive if you’re always going to be the person paying…. If you go out on two dates a week, you’ll probably spend about $100 a week. That’s $5,200 a year! Fuck that…. The average woman goes out on two to three dates a week… She’s saving thousands of dollars a year and getting her belly filled for free with great food and drinks by Beta boys she won’t sleep with. Seem a little unfair???? Will she think that it’s unfair? NO WAY!
There comes a time where once you and a woman get to know each other a little better that you should pay for her. There’s something to be said about taking your chick out for a night on the town… This is always after you’ve had sex and you’ve been seeing each other after a month or two BUT you shouldn’t pay every single time. Once in while, say “I got dinner/drinks the last time. Why don’t you get it this time.” She’ll actually respect you more for taking this approach.
Hope this clears some things up!!!