What if there was a conspiracy against us men and women were the culprits of this elaborate hoax? I’m not saying there actually is a conspiracy, that it’s true or untrue but I’m gonna lay down some serious thoughts and facts to make us think about the women that raise us and how they are protecting their own survival by the potential manipulation of men!
As you all know by now, I read relentlessly and have been studying Human Behavioral Psychology for almost 10 years. I’m fascinated by the subject and usually read an average of 2-3 books a month on this subject and enroll in educational classes pertaining to these very topics as often as I can. I love to read arguments for and against both men and women’s rights, how we chose partners, why we chose our partners, how sex plays a pivotal roll in just about every decision process that we make, why we cheat, why we marry, gender rolls, etc… Give me a book on any of these subjects and I won’t put it down until it’s finished and I’ve highlighted every meaningful and important thought and fact in that book for future reference! Some might even call me an expert in this field!
Currently I’ve been studying about the manipulation of men and I came across some interesting information and hypothesis’s that I would like to share with you in my own words.
One topic in particular is about basic human survival techniques. No, not the typical Darwinian foundation of thought but the more subtle gender specific tactics that most of us are 100% unaware of that we employ to ensure our species and in particular our genders survival.
I’m giving this the name of “Early Grooming”.
Before I get into the conspiracy theory that many authors are proposing(which will be Part 2 of this post, I would like to talk about what’s going on on the surface of what virtually ALL Women, this includes Mothers, Teachers, Baby-Sitters, Television, Media, etc… are teaching little boys about their rolls as men in life, dating and attitudes towards the women who are the objects of their desire which are nothing but the younger versions of themselves.
The potential manipulation of men starts at a very young age! If you’re a man, it will be impossible to protect yourself from the mind-games that women will play with you. We are just way too young to know any better and our brains aren’t fully developed enough to comprehend what’s going on or able to recognize the truth or untruth in what they are saying to us… So, what happens is that we just whole heartedly believe what we are told and then, even worse, carry that advice into adulthood and never question what we were taught despite seeing the obvious facts that what were taught doesn’t work to our advantage in regards to a mutually fulfilling relationship with women and only leads to a quite resentful outlook towards dating and our own masculine self-fulfillment!
When men are young, the women in our lives love to tell us how to date, what it is to be a man and how treat women! They really do LOVE it to give us their advice, it makes them feel whole and complete! They tell us what to say, how to dress, how to act , what we should be doing and they lead us to believe that they are the sole authority on “What women want, expect and need” even if they themselves are in a miserable relationship or have had no real long-term relationship experience to offer as a foundation for their advice. They lead us to believe what it is to “Be A Man”!
Women will give us faulty advice… They will try their best to mold us INTO WHAT THEY WANT from relationships and a man despite knowing that their advice is not the true key to their heart or the ways in which a man can show his masculinity.
Now, I wouldn’t even be writing this post if the men who surrounded us when we were younger were capable of steering our fertile and developing brains into a masculine Alpha direction but these men were either too scared to contradict the ultimate female authority for fear of being ridiculed by the opposite sex(Hence, lack of female attention) for being a misogynist or they just flat out didn’t know any better.
Either way, both women and men give the male youth of this world the worst dating advice imaginable and I would venture to say that the very people we look to for advice to make our sexual lives more enriched and teach us about love are the very sources of most of our failures.
My Mother’s dating advice was HORRIBLE, she’s no exception! Sorry Mom! And I never had a father in the picture to teach me otherwise. My Mom had some men in her life and eventually remarried but their advice to me, if they even gave me any advice at all was just as flawed. At the time, I thought I was being taught the most valuable lessons in life but as I grew older and was experiencing failed relationship after relationship, I just thought I was implementing their advice wrongly. I thought I needed more practice with women. Little did I know! All of the early teachings I was getting was from a woman or a Beta Male. A recipe for disaster!
Doubt me about the bad advice we’ve been handed??? Look at the divorce rate. Look at the cheating rate! Look at the rate of rape on this planet! Look at how unhappy men and women are in their relationships. How many times have we heard that BULLSHIT phrase, “Relationships are hard work”? I’m not sure about you but life is already hard work and the last thing I want is more hard work just be in relationship that isn’t making me happy! If we were being taught the correct way to have wonderful relationships as kids by competent adults the above wouldn’t be happening on a scale that has never been seen in history before!
The traditional “politically correct” model of dating is fundamentally flawed, it all starts from an early age as a form of brainwashing. It’s the classic case of the blind leading the blind and NOBODY will admit that they’re wrong or change their opinions.
What kind of advice do we receive as young men from our elders, especially women?
And when we were young, why wouldn’t you think and believe that the dating advice from a grown woman wouldn’t be correct?!?!
Let’s see what type of advice women will give men about courting and committed relationship dating…
-If you like a girl. Just tell her that she’s beautiful.
-Give her flowers.
-Tell her about your feelings towards her
-Ask her parents if it is ok to ask her out on a date/marry her
-Don’t let her carry heavy things
-Hold the door for her
-Laugh at her jokes
-Don’t tease her
-Open all doors for her
-Take her out to dinner
-Happy wife equals happy life
-Walk in front of her to clear the way for her
-Give her your umbrella if it’s raining
-Pull the car around for her
-Pay for everything you do on your date
-Plan an elaborate date
-Drive her around
-The woman always comes first
-Open the car door for her
-Take off her coat for her
-Pull the seat out for her to sit down
-Don’t try to kiss her
-Tell her how much you appreciate her
-Ask her if it’s ok to hold her hand
-Don’t sit to close to her
-Be nice to her friends
-Compliment her on the way she’s dressed
-Walk her to the front door of her home when you drop her off
-Thank her for going out with you
-Commit to her after you have sex for the first time
-Get a great job so you can provide for her
-Take her on vacation
-Make more money
-Give her space if she needs it
-If you think a girl is pretty, ask her out to dinner politely
-Write her a love letter
-Buy a diamond ring for her
-Ask her out on a second date
-Do whatever you can for her!
-Compliment her some more
Etc… Do I need to give more examples??? Read that list again… Is there something missing? Hmmmmm…. Is it me or was all this advice from your female authority, all about her, another woman?
To me, the above advice from women actually disempowers women! It almost makes women seem like they are incapable of even the easiest of tasks.
It’s a giant list about what we should be doing for her to make her life easier and to make her feel special and nothing about what we should be expecting from her. It was already assumed that she is the prize whether or not that female authority giving you advice knew the slightest thing about your date and that your date was doing you the favor by gracing you with her presence. Where is the advice about what you should be looking for in a woman or how she should be trying to WIN you over or her expected roll as a woman in a long-term relationship.
It’s a giant list that we’ll take with us into the later years of our lives and wonder why we aren’t successful with women or relationships! We’ll hold on to that list or a version of it for dear life and be hard pressed to alter it in any way shape or form!
It’s our Dating Blueprint!
Keep in mind that I am not saying that we shouldn’t do any of things on that list for a woman that we fancy. I think that chivalry and being a “gentleman” has it’s place in the dating arena but the point I am stressing is that the advice we get from women on how to date and win over other women is selfish as hell and just makes women look feeble minded!!!!
Try reversing that list and see if women don’t slap you in the face and call you a misogynistic pig!
So… If that list does nothing to empower women or men, why is it the bible of dating etiquette?
Why would women be so eager to impress on us from an early age the importance of a list such as this?
I smell a conspiracy brewing!
Part 2- Coming soon!