Let me ask you this… Have you ever been out on a dinner date and when the hostess escorts you and your girl to your table your left with a decision about where you “should” sit and where she “should” sit? Has that same hostess or host made you follow them to your table and they have already chosen where the man should be seated and where the woman should be seated? I bet you have and if you haven’t realized this is happening, GO ON A DATE TONIGHT AND SEE FOR YOURSELF.
Usually in most restaurants or lounges they will have some of their tables lined up against a wall. Now, the wall seat will usually be slightly more comfortable than the ordinary table chair its opposite and the nice comfy wall seat will be facing the entire restaurant. In other words, who ever sits with their back against the wall gets the GOOD seat where you can take notice of all the action that particular venue has to offer and your ass will feel all the more better because it will be placed on a rather plush soft material. I don’t know about you guys but my ass likes warm, soft, plush seats and my wonderful brown eyes love to gander at all the happenings of my new environment. If you’re not like me, speak up now…
But this post isn’t about soft seats or wandering eyes. It’s about the fact that ALL WOMEN seem to think that it’s their God given right to sit in that seat regardless of who’s paying.
And to make matter worse, the hostess or host is on dating auto-pilot and has her side in the matter. I.E. Your hostess will automatically guide your date to the better of the two seats, THE WALL SEAT. It’s almost a conspiracy and what your left doing, that is if you are man enough to grab that seat is almost push your hostess out of the way to get it.
This is insane if you ask me.
The other night I was on a date with an awesome woman. She’s probably the closest thing to my perfect 10.. I nicknamed her “The Fish” for reasons I don’t feel like sharing with you guys. We’ve been dating for almost 4 months now and she’ll definitely be reading this post and hopefully she’ll reply but I won’t count on it. Anyway, about a week ago we went out to dinner at our favorite restaurant and lo and behold our hostess guides us to a long row of seats against a wall. And yes, the seats against the wall are super soft and cozy. I can tell she has her eye on it before we even get there but I am just slightly ahead of her and I start to sit down against the wall and out of the corner of my eye I can tell she has a problem with it.
She says, “What? You’re going to take the nice seat?” and I say “Yes. Of course!”
I can tell she’s upset and offended which is quite baffling to me. Here we are at a great restaurant, we were laughing, having an awesome time getting to the restaurant, she knows I’m gonna pay for this one and yet there’s a problem! SO, you guys know me… I decide that we should talk about “her problem” and we do.
I proceed to tell her that I don’t think it should be automatically assumed that she or women in general should automatically get the good seat and that I’ve been on so many dates where the woman thinks that she is entitled to some sort of special treatment just because she’s on a date with me. What the hell is that about? I ask her if she thinks that’s fair and of course she has no other option but to agree because if she disagreed it would show an extreme amount of selfishness on her part.
I also tell her of a story where I was out on a date with a different girl at a sushi restaurant and that this particular place has a row of wall seats about 30 long. That’s 30 tables long!!! It was a Saturday night and like you may already be suspecting, EVERY SINGLE TABLE AGAINST THE WALL HAD WOMEN SITTING IN THOSE SEATS! It looked so awkward to me. All these guys trying to “do the gentleman thing”, win the affection and attention of their dates and the women were just sitting back and judging with prissy little smiles on their faces! YUCKKKKK! Guess which seat I took that night? Damn right! I sat down in the wall seat, leaned back and smiled! I was the only guy out of 30 or so that was sitting against the wall and it felt awesome!
Getting back to the Fish… She actually started to take my side in the debate after she heard what I had said and realized that women have certain entitlement issues when it comes to dating and being courted! I also told her that if she wanted to take me on a date, she could sit in any seat she chooses. We laughed and then I told her that our conversation would make a great post for my blog!
The funny thing is that when I sit down in the wall seat I notice all the other girls eye-fucking me so much more. Somewhere in their female subconscious minds I must be portraying an air of Alpha Male to them.
Now, I do believe that men should be men and that there is a time and place for romance and chivalry but when a woman automatically assumes certain standards that you must meet and do when it comes to dating because she has the “all elusive-prized-vagina” that we are all after, that is where I draw the line in the sand!
Women just have some really amazing, unjustified entitlement issues and there’s no way around that and you’ll be hard pressed to change them so you’ll just have to learn to deal with them as they arise. We can thank all the Beta Boys that have tried to court her before you for her current state of entitlement. In reality it’s not the woman’s fault, it’s just what she’s used to and expects. So, don’t hold a grudge against them for being women.
When a woman has an entitlement issue and you fall for it, you lose a part of your Alpha masculinity and the attraction she has for you. She, more than likely will not even realize that this is happening but on a deep subconscious level your Alpha-ness will be on a decline and you’ll be on the road to next-ville!
If we continue down this path of catering to the whims of women and their entitlement issues it will be an endless decline for men. At some point it might become impossible for a man to regain his title of king and there will no longer be Alpha Males to swoon the hottest women into their hearts.
Be a man. Be masculine! Be Alpha and keep the girl on her toes, excited and feeling alive when she is with you! There is no reason why men can’t start being men again and doing the opposite of what Oprah Winfrey has convinced her female audience of what the appropriate male behavior towards a woman should be.
You are the leader. You are the PRIZE not the other way around!