A man who is “Pussy Whipped” is a man who is living in a constant state of fear and lack rather than living in a state of abundance and masculinity!
What a way to start of a post, huh?
I don’t necessarily like the term “Pussy Whipped” but it’s the only phrase in which every man and woman will recognize and understand…
Why would a guy allow himself to be pussy whipped and walking around day after day with his alpha tail between his legs by a woman that he has such strong emotions towards? Can you even be pussy whipped by a woman that you barely know? Why does one become more whipped as the relationship drags on? And once you start down the road to “Pussy Whipped-ville” is there any turning back without losing the woman? I’m going to try and answer some these question from my own personal experience and from what I’ve seen over the course of my life and still continue to see to this day! Let’s tackle them one by one, shall we?
Why would a guy allow himself to be pussy whipped by a woman that he has such strong emotions towards?
I think most would agree that a serious relationship should be played on a level playing field/ equality. If you’re relationship is based on equalities then the question of how can a man allow himself to be Pussy Whipped shouldn’t even come to mind but it does! As time goes on and we evolve, men are increasingly becoming more and more Beta and losing the core of what once made them men. Today, more than ever, man has become extremely complacent to women by compromising his values and masculinity to the point of no return because of his fear of lack in regards to attracting wonderful women into his life and the lack of knowledge on how to be an Alpha male warrior. I would like to blame the later on his role-models while he was growing up. Whether that be his Mother, Father, school teacher, favorite actor and so on….
Men in todays society have NO REAL role models to look up to. After all, how can a man know what it is to be strong in his values with little compromise if he’s never seen an example of such and if he has by pure luck caught a rare glimpse at an Alpha males behavior, how would he even view him?
It’s really a shame that the men we see in our daily lives are almost all whipped to some extant or another. Most men think that if they behave in an alpha way that the woman will resent him, call him a womanizer and lose her interest towards him. Nothing can be further from the truth! Women respect a real man. A man who can take the lead, who has values that will further himself and their relationship, a man who knows when to take her shit and even more importantly knows when NOT to.
Fear+Beta+Lack=WHIPPED Courage+Abundance+Alpha= Positive Sustainable Realationships
Can you even be pussy whipped by a woman that you barely know?
The answer is, Yes! Being “pussy whipped” happens long before you ever met your girl! Being pussy whipped is just another word for Beta. If you’re the type of guy who allows himself to be pussy whipped than I’ll bet your whole life is one giant continuum of that particular behavior! Your whole life is one giant Pussy Whipped experience. If you’re allowing a woman to walk all over you and make you constantly compromise your values than you’ve been letting everyone else do the same to you for as far back as you can remember!
Why does one become more whipped as the relationship drags on?
I’m sure most of you guys have heard of a “yes ladder”??? If you haven’t heard the term before than let me break it down to you. A “yes ladder” is an evil way for people to get what they want. Most people aren’t even aware that they are employing this psychological technique to such deadly efficiency.
It starts off with a person saying yes once to someone for something asked of them to do something that they don’t necessarily want to do. In other words, one person gets a level of compliance from another. Once you get a “yes” or “compliance” once from someone the trap is set! It will become increasingly easier to get further yes’s or compliances. The more yes’s you get the more you can control that person. The more yes’s you give the harder it becomes to say no. A pussy whipped man is a YES man. The woman who has been getting her yes’s whenever she wants has grown accustomed to his compromises, so when she hears a no out of his mouth, trouble ensues!
And, the more you say “Yes” or “compromise” the more investment you put into that person or situation and you will stay in a bad situation or relationship with the hopes of one day getting a return on your investment. But, how could you possibly get a return on comprimise? You can’t!!! Once a person is used to getting what they want from a person it is nearly impossible to give back to that other person on any significant level.
You can imagine that after years of being in a relationship as the “whipped” man that the fear of saying no is way too powerful to actually act on. You’ve become a trained dog of sorts and well trained dogs rarely disobey their master! Now, if you were living in a state of abundance and non-fear, you would be able to simply say no and walk away and be all the more better because you knew that there were plenty of other options out there for you! It’s when you don’t have any other options or the lack of skill and knowledge to attract wonderful people into your life that you will say YES and compromise all day every day.
…once you start down the road to “Pussy Whipped-ville” is there any turning back without losing the woman?
Of course there is but it’s not going to be easy and may take a considerable length of time. You may even run the risk of losing the girl… But ask yourself this… Is it better to stay in a relationship where you are not living from a place of pure masculinity or go for broke, stand your ground and lose the woman???
Patience is crucial to the “turn-around” process. Escape from Pussy-Whippedville takes dedication and understanding of the male/female dynamic and an even better understanding of dominance.
My advice to you would be to start that process in the bedroom. Slowly, of course! Start being more aggressive and dominant in bed. GO check out David Shade’s material for more on that. Give her the best sex she’s ever had, be a little more dominant in the bedroom. Women go crazy for a man that can make her submissive in the bedroom.
Why don’t you like the term pussy-whipped? Seems fitting and plausible to me.
amazing post… i have this exact problem and im going to do what it takes to be a real man again… thanks glenn
fucking awsome… i am in a situation of being the yes ladder. I love my teamsport(handball) and in the team i ended up being the last person.. the puusy whiped and its impossible to change. I TRYIED and got me troubles with the whole team, i cant stop because i love the sport so much, is a dilemma. I am this way for 5 years, i am trying to change a year now but it doesnt seems to work for me, i got once into it, i cant pull out of this shit. Best advice, never get into this situation.. really helpful post.
i have been with my LTR going onto 9 years now. i agree with this post a lot and of it makes sense to me becuase i am so much of the provider to her at this point that a LOT of the seduction is fucking gone. i have already started paying attention to the habits i have built when it comes to treating her and having sex and a lot of AFC shit is popping out(i.e making her feel guilty when sex is just not a possibility)
since i was with her before doing pick up i guess i never really put her into the same category as every other chick i have dealt with since starting pick up. i guess once in a relationship, after a while you stop paying attention to actually gaming your girl and fall into subconcious habits that end up fucking you up. this post is definitely helpful and because of it i am already thinking of ways to switch things around to get her back on her toes. thank you for this post. right before this post i was thinking that sometimes it takes you a while to put up something new on the blog but that is only becuase when you do put something up it is so fucking profound the wait is definitely worth it. you are definitely more about quality than quantity. keep em cumming and see you in the field.
I have never understood men acting pussy whipped. F that. Not even being a pig but I’ve always run the show in all of my relationships. Almost too much but I’d rather have it that way than be pathetic like some of my buddies. Women don’t want a yes man trust me. If you are one your woman will eventually find an alpha male and sleep with him, then leave you. Worse, she stays with you and you taste man musk. Horrible.