Are You Pussy Whipped???

A man who is “Pussy Whipped” is a man who is living in a constant state of fear and lack rather than living in a state of abundance and masculinity!

What a way to start of a post, huh?

I don’t necessarily like the term “Pussy Whipped” but it’s the only phrase in which every man and woman will recognize and understand…

Why would a guy allow himself to be pussy whipped and walking around day after day with his alpha tail between his legs by a woman that he has such strong emotions towards? Can you even be pussy whipped by a woman that you barely know? Why does one become more whipped as the relationship drags on? And once you start down the road to “Pussy Whipped-ville” is there any turning back without losing the woman? I’m going to try and answer some these question from my own personal experience and from what I’ve seen over the course of my life and still continue to see to this day! Let’s tackle them one by one, shall we?

Why would a guy allow himself to be pussy whipped by a woman that he has such strong emotions towards?

I think most would agree that a serious relationship should be played on a level playing field/ equality. If you’re relationship is based on equalities then the question of how can a man allow himself to be Pussy Whipped shouldn’t even come to mind but it does! As time goes on and we evolve, men are increasingly becoming more and more Beta and losing the core of what once made them men. Today, more than ever, man has become extremely complacent to women by compromising his values and masculinity to the point of no return because of his fear of lack in regards to attracting wonderful women into his life and the lack of knowledge on how to be an Alpha male warrior. I would like to blame the later on his role-models while he was growing up. Whether that be his Mother, Father, school teacher, favorite actor and so on….

Men in todays society have NO REAL role models to look up to. After all, how can a man know what it is to be strong in his values with little compromise if he’s never seen an example of such and if he has by pure luck caught a rare glimpse at an Alpha males behavior, how would he even view him?

It’s really a shame that the men we see in our daily lives are almost all whipped to some extant or another. Most men think that if they behave in an alpha way that the woman will resent him, call him a womanizer and lose her interest towards him. Nothing can be further from the truth! Women respect a real man. A man who can take the lead, who has values that will further himself and their relationship, a man who knows when to take her shit and even more importantly knows when NOT to.

Fear+Beta+Lack=WHIPPED     Courage+Abundance+Alpha= Positive Sustainable Realationships

Can you even be pussy whipped by a woman that you barely know?

The answer is, Yes! Being “pussy whipped” happens long before you ever met your girl! Being pussy whipped is just another word for Beta. If you’re the type of guy who allows himself to be pussy whipped than I’ll bet your whole life is one giant continuum of that particular behavior! Your whole life is one giant Pussy Whipped experience. If you’re allowing a woman to walk all over you and make you constantly compromise your values than you’ve been letting everyone else do the same to you for as far back as you can remember!

Why does one become more whipped as the relationship drags on?

I’m sure most of you guys have heard of a “yes ladder”??? If you haven’t heard the term before than let me break it down to you. A “yes ladder” is an evil way for people to get what they want. Most people aren’t even aware that they are employing this psychological technique to such deadly efficiency.

It starts off with a person saying yes once to someone for something asked of them to do something that they don’t necessarily want to do. In other words, one person gets a level of compliance from another. Once you get a “yes” or “compliance” once from someone the trap is set! It will become increasingly easier to get further yes’s or compliances. The more yes’s you get the more you can control that person. The more yes’s you give the harder it becomes to say no. A pussy whipped man is a YES man. The woman who has been getting her yes’s whenever she wants has grown accustomed to his compromises, so when she hears a no out of his mouth, trouble ensues!

And, the more you say “Yes” or “compromise” the more investment you put into that person or situation and you will stay in a bad situation or relationship with the hopes of one day getting a return on your investment. But, how could you possibly get a return on comprimise? You can’t!!! Once a person is used to getting what they want from a person it is nearly impossible to give back to that other person on any significant level.

You can imagine that after years of being in a relationship as the “whipped” man that the fear of saying no is way too powerful to actually act on. You’ve become a trained dog of sorts and well trained dogs rarely disobey their master! Now, if you were living in a state of abundance and non-fear, you would be able to simply say no and walk away and be all the more better because you knew that there were plenty of other options out there for you! It’s when you don’t have any other options or the lack of skill and knowledge to attract wonderful people into your life that you will say YES and compromise all day every day.

…once you start down the road to “Pussy Whipped-ville” is there any turning back without losing the woman? 

Of course there is but it’s not going to be easy and may take a considerable length of time. You may even run the risk of losing the girl… But ask yourself this… Is it better to stay in a relationship where you are not living from a place of pure masculinity or go for broke, stand your ground and lose the woman???

Patience is crucial to the “turn-around” process. Escape from Pussy-Whippedville takes dedication and understanding of the male/female dynamic and an even better understanding of dominance.

My advice to you would be to start that process in the bedroom. Slowly, of course! Start being more aggressive and dominant in bed. GO check out David Shade’s material for more on that. Give her the best sex she’s ever had, be a little more dominant in the bedroom. Women go crazy for a man that can make her submissive in the bedroom.

At the same time as you are becoming more dominant in the bedroom and giving your woman more pleasure than she’s had in years it is now a good idea to start to do some of things that you used to before you met your chick. It could be a guys night out, poker, sports game, etc… Just start doing the things that you love and make sure that it is YOUR thing and not hers. Don’t invite her along. Tell her that you need to start doing the things that you loved again. Get back to working on yourself and your hobbies. At this time she may feel threatened by your new behavior but once she sees that you’re not leaving her and that there is nothing to worry about, she’ll start to root you on.

Next… Start flirting with her again. Tease her playfully. Bust on her again. Every once in while start to send some flirty texts to her. Do the things that made her so attracted to you in the first place…

Now is a good time to start saying NO to things you don’t want to say yes to! Start with an uncompromising NO once in a while… Do not overdo it. A little goes a long way. The more NO’s you start to give, the easier it will become to stand your ground. The more NO’s she hears the more the idea of her getting her way and hearing yes’s to everything will fade into oblivion. But don’t just say no for the sake of saying no. Only say NO when you truly mean it.

The rest should come natural and you can now enjoy the fruits of Alpha Manhood once again. Take your thrown back. Be the King and have your woman be your Queen. It’s imperative to make sure that your woman still feels like a woman who is loved and cared for by you! But that doesn’t mean succumbing to her every need and whim… As the saying goes… “Sometimes when a baby is crying, you can’t pick him/her up. You just have to let the baby cry.”

I hope this post helps some of you guys out… If you’re not in a relationship right now, then remember my words when you finally are.

Be the King…

Please comment… Let me know your thoughts and if you can add anything to my short list, please do. I can always learn from you as well…

HAPPY NEW YEARS!!!!! 2013 is OUR year!