Creepy, scary and weird are words that you NEVER want to hear uttered out of a woman’s mouth during or directly after you’ve approached her. OUCH! Talk about a blow to your confidence and ego. Can any man recover his composure after being called weird or hearing a woman and her friends while laughing at you say the words… “Dude! You’re creeping us out. Go away!”
I can’t speak for most of the guys reading this but I’ve definitely heard those words myself back in the beginning of my journey… Some of the mean things women said to me took days for me to get over. It just hurt so bad. I felt defeated. I felt depressed. I was left feeling like an unconfident fool. It made my next approach a million times scarier. I wanted to give up. I would always expect to hear the words again and again and again… Luckily, over time. The words creepy, scary or weird were being whispered about me less and less until the point that I rarely ever heard them and my resilience to harsh ramblings from women who rejected me and my approach affected me less and less. Do I still sometimes creep a chick out??? Of course I do! There’s really no avoiding that. You will be no different! I hate to say that to you but you’re gonna creep chicks out from time to time! Get used to it. Do I allow the fact that I may creep a woman out affect me negatively? Not at all!
Now… I’ve been thinking about writing this post for a few days now but I wasn’t ready until I had it all figured out in my head. I’d like to spend this time teaching you how to NOT creep girls out but there’s no avoiding it, you will. I’d also like to teach you how to handle being called a creep and how to bounce back but I don’t think I’ll be able to do that right now but maybe by reading this post it will help you in those ways!
Instead, I’m going to tell you why women get creeped out and why they can be downright mean to us when we approach in a way that doesn’t get their feathers ruffled with lustful attraction! Some guys might call it a bitch-shield or they might make up an excuse for their behavior something along the lines of… They were just mean people! But… I’d like to defend our pretty little ladies and give them the benefit of the doubt on this one.
Here’s the deal! A typical woman has been hit on thousands upon thousands of times and that’s if she’s not even cute. A hot chick, who’s in a city or a highly populated area has been hit on probably at least 10,000 or more times during her lifetime. When I say hit on, I don’t mean approached. An approach is very different than hitting on a girl. Hitting on a girl is just saying a random something to her and hoping it goes well. Usually those random somethings are a degrading kissing sound, a “Hey Baby”, You wanna come home with me, DAMN GIIIIIRL, SEXXXXY MOMMMMA, etc…. An approach is done with tact and an intention by a real man who knows what he wants. The both are very different.
Women aren’t bitchy nor do they walk around their entire lives with bitch-shields! They’re just tired of being hit in a way that’s lame! They’re tired of guys saying stupid shit to them. They are tired of fat, ugly, unsuccessful, unmotivated men taking their lack of experience and hatred towards women out on them by saying stupid shit to them and acting in a degrading way with the hopes that she will magically turn around and say, “Hey… I loved what you just said. Wanna go have sex with me?” Guys who say that stuff have no clue how to actually meet a woman nor do they ever get laid. They need to learn how to be a man!
Chicks have very little tolerance for men who exhibit undesirable behavior! And I don’t blame them. If you’ve been courted and hit on as much as women, do you think you’d act the same way? I know I would. How would your impressions of women be??? I always hear the same words from women… “I just wish a real man would approach me.” Hmmmmm…. You mean to tell me none of those men were real men??? That tells me something very important.
Women get creeped out so easily because of the fact that SO MANY guys who have no game have hit on them well before you ever got there. Those guys helped ruin it for YOU! Let’s put some of the blame on those guys for the modern behavior of women when it comes to getting approached and creeped out. The rest of the blame is on ourselves and our approach that we’ve chosen to make on her! I would say 95% them, 5% us!
Guys who don’t study Dating Advice or how to become a PUA will CREEP women out consistently! Not knowing what to say to a woman or how to say it will make women run for the hills. Their Creep Radar goes off and their gone. Once you find yourself in Creepsville, there is no return. Once you’ve been labeled creepy by a girl, that’s it! You’re creepy for life in her eyes. And most men will be considered creepy to some extent whether or not you truly are until she knows other wise.
Here’s the deal… Not studying dating advice and how to approach women is actually downright creepy. When you study it, it’s because you want to have better interactions with women, make them feel better and excite them in attractive ways, grow as a man and understand them better. By trying to understand why women think the way that they do is actually an admirable undertaking and you should be proud of your decision to join our community.
Almost 100% of the women I meet sooner or later learn about the fact that I’m a Dating Coach. I usually end up having some fascinating conversations with them about the male/female dynamic. I’m here to tell you that ALL of them LOVE what I do. None have had a single problem with it. As a matter of fact they’ll usually say something like… “I should send my X-boyfriend to you” or “I wish all guys took your classes”. For some reason they think I teach in a classroom setting… That’s always funny to me!
Back to my point….
Chances are, if you’re not studying Dating Advice and how to approach women you’re creeping them out if you actually take initiative to make an advancement towards a woman you don’t know!
The guys who haven’t studied and learned how to interact with women are the MAIN reason why women get creeped out! They are the ones doing creepy and weird things when it comes to women, like stalking them because they have no other options or self-worth, saying stupid and inappropriate things to them, not being able to take a hint, not understanding that no means no, being a womanizer, trying to win them over with money and gifts(buying their attention), trying to be their best friend when their true intention is to sleep with them, etc…. Men who don’t bother to understand women and better their games are the creeps, NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND!
You will never see any guy in the Dating Community ever do any of the above. Why? Because we know better because we’ve learned what women want and need. Sure we’ll win some and lose some. We’ll still encounter relationship problems and fail from time to time but overall our success will make the Non-study’er of the arts success look like a downright slaughter and maybe change the minds of a few women and how they view men down the road.
Be proud of yourself for taking this journey and stay on the path.