First Impressions….

When you walk up to a woman that you find attractive and want to bring her into your life, the very first thing you’re going to need to do is make a great first impression. An awesome first impression can not be understated. But, you guys don’t need me to tell you that. I think it’s quite clear that first impressions are crucial to your overall success and first impressions are hard if not impossible to prove wrong.

From the moment you start talking to the woman she will be judging you and your character. It’s a cold approach. She has no idea who you are, where you came from, if you’re safe or if you’re trouble, if you’ll treat her the way that she deserves to be treated and quite frankly, I don’t blame her. Women have seen it all from men. They’ve been lied to, cheated on, maybe sexual abused, who knows what else… Why should she trust you or believe you are who you say you are??? You’re essentially trying to win her trust over with your honesty and attractive qualities starting from ground zero. After all, she has to believe you and everything you’re saying and showing her to gain any level of trust for you. You don’t have mutual friends or family member that can vouch for your character and tell her that she should go out on a date with you because you’re a really great guy who’s going to treat her good. You have to establish all of the trust she may or may not have for you on your own. This can be a daunting task for some guys especially if you’ve done little or no work on yourself in terms of Self-Development.

I feel as if the best way to make an amazing first impression on the women you meet is to:

MAKE YOUR WHOLE LIFE ONE GIANT GREAT FIRST IMPRESSION

The reason why people try so hard to make a great first impression is usually because they are not the person in reality that is making that false first impression…. You shouldn’t have to “TRY” to make a good first impression. That sounded confusing. Let me say it differently. If your whole life was already a great first impression you wouldn’t need to try so hard if at all to make a good first impression. You would just be a good first impression. People, whether they be women, co-workers, new friends, etc… would already be able to instinctively tell whether or not your a good person just by looking at you and noticing what type of energy you carry with yourself.

When guys ask me how to make a great first impression my answer to them is always the same: “BECOME A GREAT FIRST IMPRESSION!”

You should always be trying to make a great first impression. Wherever you go and whatever you’re doing you should be doing it with the sole purpose of making a good impression. Make a great impression on the world and the world will reward you for your efforts.

We’ve all come to realize that meeting women is hard work and takes a lot of determination and that ultimately this is a journey of self exploration and personal development. We have to fix ourselves, learn to satisfy ourselves, grow as people in a positive way, release old-negative beliefs and adopt more positive ones before we can truly see success.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that you should STOP trying to make a great first impression for the sake of becoming a more attractive man to women and start trying to make a GREAT FIRST IMPRESSION ON YOURSELF FOR YOURSELF and nobody else.

Do it for the right reasons. If your only reason for making a good first impression is to sleep with tons of women than your heart is in the wrong place and you’ll never be happy or be able to sustain a wonderful relationship with a woman or yourself. You need to be doing it for the right reasons to have long-term success. The right reason is yourself! Impress yourself and you will naturally impress others

Become a better person and you will be able to make better impressions on people and the world.

How far are you willing to go with this? I’ve personally been trying to make a great first impression on the world and myself for over ten years now. Do I make mistakes? Of course I do. I’m only human. But over the years I’ve learned to take all the responsibility on myself. I no longer play the blame game. I’m always looking for the next best way to impress myself. I study self help guru’s relentlessly and I do my best to do the work and exercises they prescribe. I’ve grown so much over the past 6 years. When I first came to the world Dating Psychology I had no idea that what I was really stepping into was a world of personal development. I thought that I’d be able to say a few fancy lines to women and WHAMMMMO, I’d have a girlfriend. How wrong I was.

We all think, including me at one time, that “WE” found the Dating Community” but in reality the “Dating Community” found us! It found us because we were all unhappy with our current state of affairs. We thought it was entirely due to our horrible past dating experiences or lack of women and options in the past but in the bigger truth we were unhappy with ourselves as people on some level. The Dating community found us because we needed help.

Dating Education in my opinion is the greatest expression of Self-Help there is. It forces you to work on EVERY little area of your life, it leaves no stone left unturned. Your career, confidence, limiting beliefs, old family issues, self-worth, ego, pride, love, trust, honesty, past dating experiences, etc… the list can go on forever… All of these things come into play when learning to become a more attractive person. Over time you will have to face and defeat all of your demons head on in order to achieve the level of happiness that you desire. Don’t get me wrong, you’ll have some success here and there before the great-work is completed but to become a master at making first impressions, you’ll have to always be working on and conquering all of your negativity and limiting beliefs about yourself. You’ll always have to be challenging yourself. Once an old issue is resolved a new issue will surface and it’s up to you to keep dealing with them as they creep up into your life. Does it ever end? I personally don’t think it does. But I’ve come to love this process. I love seeing what issues will come up next and look forward to taking the appropriate steps to deal with them as quickly and effectively as possible.

Now stop reading my blog… Go impress yourself! Today is the first day of the rest of your life. After all, you’re the one that has to go bed with yourself every single night! Why not fall asleep with a smile on your face knowing that you’ve been impressing yourself?

Please share you experiences with the rest of us. Tell me and my readers how and what you’ve been doing or are going to do in order to make a better impression on yourself and the world. I love hearing from you guys. That’s the purpose of this blog. It’s a place for men and women if they so chose to share a part of themselves with the world in order to learn and grow!

2 thoughts on “First Impressions….

  1. Hey Glenn,

    This is one of your best posts yet in my opinion.

    The one thing I did recently that really impressed myself is becoming 100% accountable to myself for my progress. To myself and nobody but myself… To be more precise, I stopped chasing that virtual fantasy of what living a professional PUA life might be like and started to actually work on my skills. I stopped trying to learn this just to show off in front of that friend, that acquantaince or anybody. I stopped trying to learn this just to show my teachers/coaches that I made progress. I stopped trying to learn this just to get that feeling that I now play in the same league that all the “cool” people I used to be envious of.

    In other words, I basically stopped all these little mind games that we sometimes tend to play for no reason and that divert us from our goals. Sounds like nothing, but commitment, discipline and will all amount to nothing if you’re not focused or if you keep making excuses…

    That’s basically it; no more bs… just work and focus, on some grown man shit.

  2. When I discovered this community, I thought that all we had to do was to memorize some lines and routines, master some body language moves, understand some basic concepts of seduction and the girls would come flowing.

    It took me a while to realize that I had deeper issues that I had to overcome before I could even begin to clear myself of some limiting beliefs. It also took me realizing that these changes were not going to come in a day or two because of years of bad programming.

    I have come to appreciate the importance of screening for good advise, and discarding bad ones, and making this personal evolution a permanent part of my life!

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