Want- is the one word I hear from guys from all across the pick-up community more than anything else. They say things like, I want to sleep with 9’s and 10’s, I want to start going out more to meet women, I want to open better, I want to stop being scared to approach women, I want to learn Day Game, I want a threesome, I want, I want, I want, I want, I want…….. The list goes on and on. Could there possibly be an end to any of this? Chances are, if you are saying “I want” to any of the above than you are more than likely saying “I want” to ALL of the above and then some!
In the above definition of WANT… It’s funny how the word “wish” appears!
The word wish, at least to me means the same thing as hope. Is there really much of a difference between saying “I wish I could get good with women” and “I hope I get better with women?” How much power does the word wish or hope have behind it? Do the words wish and hope have a connotation of definiteness of outcome to it?
When we say we want something, what we are essentially saying is, I wish I could have that very same something I want. “Wanting” is not being sure you will have it. Wishing, hoping and wanting just won’t cut it when it comes to learning how to pick girls up.
At times, to be fair, I do hear the words “I want” come out of a guys mouth and he backs that “want” up with definite actions and beliefs that produce the desired results. When you tell someone else that you “want” something you are conveying to him a desire or wish for something that is not yet in your life and we all need to say the word “want” to make sure whoever is listening understands us and our needs. In this case, I think using the word want is fine. It’s when you are repeating the word “want” to yourself in your own mind that I think it becomes troublesome.
Let’s try an exercise for 2 weeks…
Replace the word “WANT” with the word “WILL” and see what starts to happen! I bet your whole life will start to transform. Change, “I want” to overcome my approach anxiety with “I WILL” overcome my approach anxiety and so on… Do you see the difference? Can you feel the difference? Say the two sentences out loud right now a few times and see which one gets you more motivated!
“Will” is a powerful word and having “WILL-POWER” is the key to all of your successes! “Will” is definiteness of purpose, “Will” is determination”, “Will” is overcoming all obstacles and stopping at nothing to achieve your goals!
I love hearing from everybody, so if you have anything you would like to add in response, please do! Let me know if you’re going to try my two week exercise.