The other night I got a text from a friend who was in a state of panic from a certain text he received from a woman who he has been seeing on a consistent basis. What the content of that text was is irrelevant to the point of this post. So like I said, he got a text from a chick and immediately went into panic and without really thinking it through or waiting for me to respond to his text asking me what he should do, he took matter into his own hands in just micro-seconds and his decision was the wrong decision. He did not stop to think!
What I would like to discuss briefly in this post is acting out irrationally due to your emotions rather than your logic or knowledge. This woman in his mind created a sense of emergency, it “seemed” as if if he didn’t respond fast or to her statement that he was in jeopardy of losing the woman or control of the control dynamic he was trying to create with her. In reality the situation was a very common one and didn’t deserve such a quick and decisive response. He acted out of fear. He could have dead aired this text from her and it only would have made him the man but he did not.
Sometimes women will say or do something that short circuits our brains at that moment, but it is in reality only that moment that we have to deal with. There are times when you should react quickly and moments when you need to step back, calm down, think about it and respond with tact. He did neither and when I did respond to him just minutes later he had already said the wrong things to her and when I told him how to rectify the situation he was too scared to take my advice and follow orders. Even though he knew I was right, he still decided to disobey my coaching advice which only created a dynamic in that relationship that will be very hard to undue especially with his level of game at this point in time. Basically he was too scared to follow orders. He was still in panic mode and therefore unable to act accordingly.
When you are getting coaching, YOU NEED TO FOLLOW what the coaches are telling you. Sometimes things will not make sense or even scare you because the advice will go against everything you think you should be doing but you need to trust and surrender to the people you put in charge of your success. We know better.
When you respond to a situation out of fear, you are without a doubt not thinking rationally. You are in state of panic and the neurons in your brain are firing off in patterns that create emotional responses due to our reptilian brain which is responsible for the flight or flight syndrome in all of us. You don not want to make any decisions in this state of mind. This is not good for you unless you are actually in serious danger. When it comes to women, you are never in danger unless she’s holding a gun to your head and is demanding an answer. If that is not happening then you have time to settle your brain down, re-think the situation and seek out the appropriate response from yourself or your coach.
You will never lose a girl by NOT RESPONDING to her request right away. You always have some time to make an informed decision. You never want to act out while you are in an emotional frenzy. If you do not know what to say to her. DON’T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!!!!! SHUT UP!
I have to admit that this actually affected me deeply because there I was on the phone with him telling him exactly how to rectify his horrible response to what she had said and he completely ignored me and did what he had already told her he would do which was 100% the wrong thing in that moment because he was in a fear based state of mind and my advice caused even more panic due to the fact that know he was thinking that he made the situation even worse. A repetitive loop of irrational thinking due to his emotional responses.
Now, not everybody is receiving coaching but even so, you need to act out with logic and tact regardless and not with emotion.
Remember… IF YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO SAY….. SAY NOTHING!!!!! Wait until you have the answer and are thinking rationally!