You’ve approached a beautiful woman, she’s attracted to you, you get her phone number, you run some killer text game and get her super excited to meet up with you for a date, she actually shows up for that date and doesn’t flake, you’re on the date and you’re dying to shove your tongue down her throat but… Do you or don’t you?
Excuses start to arise in your head as to whether or not she may want to be kissed. You can hear this voice in your head saying, “What if she’s not ready, or what if I get rejected?”
In the wonderful land of pick-up education there is a lot of information out there and a ton of savvy marketers trying to teach you or sell you on the idea of, “How to tell if She’s ready to be kissed.” I’m a victim of this myself or at least was a victim of this mentality before I got good with women.
Last week I was out running around NYC hittin’ on chicks with a student and during one of my demo’s my student says, “She was ready to kiss you!” and then asked, “But how can you tell that she’s ready to be kissed and how can you be sure?” Which got me thinking. Hmmmmmm.
First I thought, this guy is pretty new at the game, so why is he so sure that she wanted to be kissed based on such little actual in-field experience and secondly I started to answer his question about how to tell if “SHE’S” ready when it dawned on me that what I, 9 out of 10 times do right before I kiss a girl is completely different than what the seduction community teaches!
Sure, there are times when women will give you tell tale signs that she’s ready to be kissed and I’m not going to go over them here but when you do get those signs you can either go in for the kiss or use her desire to be kissed to build up sexual tension… But, there are times when she’s not giving you any signs or the “I wanna kiss you eyes.”
So, like I was saying, the community teaches us to recognize her little female nuances and mannerisms to tell if she’s ready to be kissed but what I usually do contradicts mainstream kiss knowledge and education.
I hate the idea of waiting until she is good and ready for me to kiss her. Why? We are the man and she’s supposed to be compliant to us, right? If that’s the case, why are we waiting around until she heats up enough and we get enough signs that her glossy-red lips are ready for your tongue?
Truth be told and thanks to the question my student asked, I realized that I haven’t been following this advice since day one.
When I’m on date or we’re back at my place I always finding myself, usually way before I get the “I wanna kiss you eyes” deciding for myself that it’s time to kiss her and get the ball rolling. I realized that I usually never wait around until she’s ready to be kissed. I realized that I kiss her and escalate her when I’m ready to. I realized that most of the decision to go forward in a sexual manor is my decision not hers. Sure she’s into it and responds/ follows my lead accordingly but I decide when I’m ready to be kissed and not the other way around.
I also realized that if I decide to kiss her and she says NO that there is a huge risk on her part for not kissing the boy she likes. She intuitively knows that I’m a very sexual man and pretty damn Alpha with a ton of sexual options and that if she doesn’t comply to my demands which is what she wants to really do anyway that I MIGHT REJECT HER for bad behavior and non-compliance! What a place of power to come from.
When I decide that I want to kiss her and take things very sexual, my mind automatically goes into a very sexual state and remember that all mental states are energy and all energy is 100% transeferable. So, if I start to get sexual in my mind, my body, energy and everything I do from that point on is very sexually charged and she will pick up on this and will follow without doubt (providing she is attracted to you). That is what her mind is programmed to do. She has no choice. Women by nature are compliant and submissive to the man they like and you can use this to your advantage.
This whole waiting until she’s good and ready to be kissed is BULLSHIT BETA behavior! We are them men and we as men decide when and if to take action. How Alpha is to wait until she’s ready to be kissed? Create the sexual environment for her to swim around in and she will put on her bikini and do what women do best, swim! (That was a really weird analogy… But you get the picture)
Next time you’re out there with a chick, decide on whether or not she’s attracted to you and then create the sexual/mood state and watch her follow. Kiss her when you’re ready to be kissed not the other way around!!!
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Also, there are only a few seats left in my upcoming workshop on July 20-22nd. It’s my first one in years so I know it’s going to be extra crazy and exciting. You can read more about it and sign up here!
On my weekend bootcamp you will learn more about this philosophy and I will teach you powerful ways to create that sexual environment for her to swim around in. I’ll also teach you many ways to escalate her so that when YOU decide that you want to kiss her she will gladly return the favor!