A very common problem I have been observing with students and lovers of the seduction game as of lately has been an issue of “Premature Ejectulation.” This is when a guy who approaches a woman gets some interest and attraction and all of a sudden decides to eject himself from the situation before he really had a chance to either pull her back to his place or build more attraction and or rapport to help him solidify a better chance of having her meet up with him again at a later date!
I see it all the time. A guy opens, gets attraction, and then…. RUNS AWAY happy he got a phone number! But, is that phone number worth the paper it was written on? NOPE! Or maybe he opens, gets attraction, and runs away before he even gets her number! I hate seeing this. In my head, I’m screaming, NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO- get back in there! SHE LIKES YOU!!!!!!!!
We approach to get the girl, right??? Then why not stay in until you get the chick? Makes perfect sense, right?
I would imagine that he runs away for a few reasons:
He puts even more importance on the set because he got some attraction and before he can ruin it, he leaves on a so called “high note” before he blows it. This is BULLSHIT THEORY! Whoever made it popular to leave on a high note after just a few minutes of talking to a woman has the same ejection problems as my students and is trying to cover his own tracks.
He just doesn’t know what to do with a woman that is interested in him from a cold approach.
The fear of being judged is now higher because there is more to lose now that she’s into him!
The fear of just blowing it!
All of these are very valid “excuses” and excuses are exactly what they are.
When you approach a woman the whole point of walking up to her and studying game is to get her massively attracted to you almost instantly so that you may now have the chance to sleep with the object of your desire and for some reason only known to the guy doing the approaching himself when he achieves this level of interest from a woman he bails just before he can capitalize on his new found skills and blow any chances he may have had to seduce the woman he just approached!
When I work with guys and start to see this pattern I implement my “NO EJECTION RULE!”
If you have this problem… I am giving you this rule to follow as well.
No Premature Ejectulation! Ever!
Stay in until she tells you to leave or walks away from you is the best cure for this disease! Practice staying in at all costs to your illusory ego! Once you get over you ejecting problem then you can start switching things up but for now stick to the plan.
Stay in, work your magic and if you blow it, then you blow it. How else are you gonna learn? Better you stay in and build some solid attraction and rapport than run away with neither. You will see your results sky-rocket when you spend more time with a woman. In most cases you overall chances of seducing the woman or getting a sold day two are in direct relation to the amount of time you spend with a woman that you’ve just met.
If you are running out of things to say and feel the need to run away… STAY IN and ask questions! Just start asking questions. Better to ask questions and get to know her that leave before the appropriate time!
What kind of questions should you ask? AFC questions! Ask away. They are only AFC questions if you don’t have attraction or interest, other than that they are the NORMAL questions people ask one another all the time. I ask AFC questions all the time and I get laid a lot! Don’t worry about that. Just ask. Get to know her life story!
Be sure to let me know if anyone is suffering from this… I have lots ideas to help you. And also, let me know if this was once a problem for you back when you were first learning as it was for me and let me know how you overcame it… Maybe I can learn something from you guys to help some of my students…