You approached her, got her phone number, now what? When do you send your first text and what should that first text be??? I wish this was a black and white issue as obviously there are many factors that go into when and what you should text a girl. I will do my best to OVER simplify this process.
I’m gonna give you a general rule of thumb but as with any advice there are going to be exceptions to the rule. The common questions I hear is, should I text her that day? Should I wait a day? Should I wait 2 days? Should I wait 3 days? I will always lean towards the sooner the better but not soon enough to come across as needy for her attention or to meet up with you again. I think I can give you a sort of chart that will work…
You meet her before 2 o’clock in the afternoon (Providing you didn’t make plans for that night already. If you did, it’s obviously clear you should be texting her that same day) I would text her about 1-2 hrs after. I would only text her this quickly if our interaction was less than 30mins… Remember, time is your worst enemy when keeping a woman’s attention on you and meeting up again. The more time that goes by the less likely you will see each other again. This is just the way it goes. The only reason for texting this quick is for the sole purpose of making sure she stays interested in me and to build some more rapport with her. Texting is great for rapport building. I would send her a few flirty texts and then keep to almost all rapport based convo. If I only chatted with her for 30 mins, chances are we didn’t have enough time to really connect. The attraction was there but did we connect?
You meet her at the same time as above but talk for about 1hour. Rapport and attraction was sufficient! I would text her at around 5-6 o’clock but I would keep it short and sweet. The reason for this is I want to see if she’s committed to me and will reciprocate my communication. So, I’ll send a few texts, ALL of which are flirty and then when she texts me after my third or fourth text back and forth, I will not respond to her. The dreaded DEAD-AIR! I always try to make sure she sends the last text. Keep her wondering about me… Women are very used to being texted non-stop by guys and never being dead-aired… Then next day at around 11am I will send a fun text and resume my normal text game which is 3-4 flirty texts, then rapport for a bit and then make plans to hang with her.
You meet her at 6-9pm… Wait until the next day somewhere around lunch time and send a fun flirty text. Resume my process as said above. I will not text her that night under any circumstances. The only way I will text her that night is if her FIRST text to me is that night and it says come meet me or come join me. If she texts me that night with anything else, I will ignore until the morning around 11am and say something like… “Hey… I’m just seeing your text? Are your thumbs awake yet?”
Night-Game: If I get a chicks number while I’m out at a bar because she is not capable of being pulled that same night, I already would have screened for her logistics for the rest of that evening before I got her number. Meaning, is she staying out late, what other places she may be going and so on… After getting her number and walking away I will start texting her that evening if I know she is still out and about crawling around to different bars. The likelihood of seeing a woman you’ve met in a bar again is very low as we all know, so I will see if I can get her to start texting with me that same night for two reasons… The first is to make sure she doesn’t forget about me. The second is to see if I can meet back up with her somewhere and seal the deal… In other words… To go home with her that night. I have had it happen plenty of times where a woman’s logistics at the time I met her was bad, but for some reason this changed throughout the night… And I had some great sex with her…
If I text her that night sometimes I will say… “Ewwww… Some crazy girls from Long Island tried to kidnap me. I need help!” or “Pssssssst….” or “Hey horsegirl… you still galloping around town?”
If I choose not to text her that night I will send my first text to her the next day! In this situation do not wait longer than 1 day!!!!
And a last piece of advice… If you have no idea when to text her… JUST SEND A TEXT! Better to send something than nothing… If you can’t figure out what to text her… JUST TEXT HER SOMETHING. Don’t blow it by not texting and letting to much time go by. You’re gonna blow it sometimes with your texts… There is no way around this. There are times when you are going to sound needy and scare her away. SO WHAT?! How else are you going to learn? Catalog and keep track of your texts. Learn and study your texting patterns. Learn what works and when you get the most responses and what time of day that is…
Soooooooo many guys are always on the hunt for the “perfect text”… And there isn’t one! If she doesn’t respond…. It’s “usually” not the text you sent…. IT WAS YOUR PICK-UP! Your pick-up just wasn’t good enough. And who cares???
Just go out into the Garden Of Eden and pick another Apple off the tree and take a bite!