Here’s a short little list of some flirty and playful things I love to say to women that I have approached. All the things I am giving you today are some of the exact same things I have given to my students who have paid for some one-on-one coaching but for free.
I guess you could call them banter lines, teases or flirty statements that will get her more attracted to you, throw her game off, let her know you’re experienced with women and at times definitely confuse her to her the fullest. All of which are great things to be able to do. Have some fun with them but use them sparingly. If you find yourself talking to a hottie and you decide to drop one of my lines on her, do just that… But ONLY one line and in the rare circumstances, maybe two! But before I give you some of my best lines I’d like for you read just a little bit more. Bare with me!
You see, most guys can get very carried away with banter lines because they work so damn well and get some pretty awesome responses from women. The more you see something working the more you’ll want to do it… Or on the other hand they will over do it with cocky & funny and what happens inevitably is that they will over game the girl. In a nutshell, the will blow themselves out but not with a bad reaction from the girl and her telling you to leave but you’ll lose the set in a much different way at a much different time(we’ll get to that in a bit). Over gaming is a very common problem I see on a day to day basis with guys I see in the field. Heck, it was a big issue for me way back when I was first learning the ninjistic arts of attracting women so how can I blame them for doing what they’re doing and what I used to do myself?
For me, back in the old days I would use some of the same lines I am giving you today but instead of just saying one or two of them I found myself saying 7-10 of them! So, what would happen with a majority of my sets was that I would open her, get attraction, over game her and get a phone number… You may be thinking, “Sounds good to me. You got her number”… Well, it did make me feel good because I got a number from a cute girl I was talking to but did that cute girl answer my texts, NOPE! Did she flake on me, YES! Did she respond to my texts for the first day and the never respond again, OF COURSE! And all of that made me feel even worse than if she had just blown me out when I first started talking to her. I hate flakey behavior from chicks….
At the time I was so confused as to what I was doing wrong. I was getting tons of numbers and massive attraction from women but I couldn’t get them to meet up with me again. I was so frustrated. Then one day I figured it out what was going wrong and why.
The answer was simple. I was just over gaming them and saying some of my banter lines at the wrong time. I was giving them to much attraction material and no rapport at all. I was relying entirely on my routines, openers and banter techniques to do all the work and help masquerade my own insecurities about my attractiveness to a woman.
You see, the more insecure about yourself you feel the more you will rely on techniques, tactics and lines to get the woman. The more secure about yourself the less attraction material you will be using. Guaranteed. This rule not only applies to the beginner but to the seasoned veteran of pick-up as well and we are all guilty of it.
It’s pretty obvious why a beginner should want his routines to do most if not all of the work for him because of his lack of confidence and deservedness but I think with the guys who are lucky to have some better pick-up skills it’s a little less obvious as to why he would feel the need to use many different routines on any particular girl!
You see, even the guys who are really good at getting women don’t feel good about themselves 100% of the time. We have our ups and downs like everybody else, so if we are having a down moment and see a hot chick there are times where he will still find himself approaching her but he will feel the urge to spit out a bunch of routines and fancy lines to have them compensate for his own feelings of lack and self-worth at that moment. Make sense?
So for me, back in the good old days of getting good with women I had some issues with my own self worth and to offset that feeling I would use way too many routines and banter material to do the job and inevitably I would over game the chick. I just wasn’t thinking that she could like me for me at that stage of my life. 8(
Another problem was the fact, like I said earlier that I was using way too much attract material and not enough rapport. Rapport skills are essential and I was underestimating the power of rapport to get the girls to call me back and meet up with me again.
Now that I think about it…I was purposefully avoiding rapport with women at all costs.
The reason I was avoiding it was because I was actually scared of getting into a rapport based conversation. When I found myself talking to a chick and the conversation was leaning towards a form of rapport I would blast out some more routines or banter lines to avoid that road. The reason being was that I knew if her and I were just in a normal rapport based conversation I wouldn’t have any of my lines(my security blanket) to use on her and I would be just sitting there talking to her with JUST myself. I would have to rely on me and me only to get the job done and that was scary as hell especially since I didn’t think that women should like me for me.
I was then left with a decision and that decision was to either avoid rapport and connection making with a woman, blast out some more attraction material and get flaked on(which I hated) or connect with her emotionally by means of a rapport/comfort based conversation… And being that I am now a head coach with BradP and have tons of chicks in my life you could only imagine which road I finally followed and how I feel about myself now.
Here’s a little formula I learned from all of this…
ATTRACTION + NO RAPPORT/COMFORT = FLAKE
NO ATTRACTION + MASSIVE RAPPORT = FLAKE
ATTRACTION + RAPPORT = DATE AND SEX
If you can follow this simple rule when you’re out meeting women you will almost always get the girl. Now, if you’re out looking for a same day lay or one night stand, does this rule apply? NO! You can pull a girl with just attraction and no rapport. But that’s a topic for a different post.
Ok. I’ve rambled enough and thanks for listening. I hope you learned something from this.
Here are the lines I have tested out, use all the time and are funny as hell when used corectly. Have some fun with them…
I am so attracted you (pause, look deep into her eyes)….. As a friend!
If we were walking down the street together, I wonder who would get more attention?
Keep touching me like that and I’m gonna make you my new booty call.
I’m just looking for multiple monogamous partners
Are you always this masculine with your touching? You sure there isn’t a dick under there?
Hey… I just noticed one of your ears is bigger than other. WOW! That is so cool
Don’t stand so close. I need to look single
Wow! Did you just see that? That was like the 5th chick who’s winked at you since we started talking
You look like you’d be really good at chess or You’ve kinda got this chess player vibe. I like it, it’s different
Lemme know what you think of these lines, if you could see yourself saying them or not saying them… If you wanna share some of your own for other guys, that would be great as well. If you feel like sharing your thoughts about rapport, please do… and definitely let me know about when you use them in the field. Have fun….