First of all I would like to personally thank all the guys who contributed to my most recent post. I got some awesome replies and heard some things I didn’t expect to hear. It’s a tough question and if I were to put myself back in position of a person learning the art of seduction, I myself would never have taken that damn pill! Although, I would have been very tempted because of the rewards that would have instantly come from it.
The obvious reason for me asking if men would take a magic pill that would instantly make them a great pick-up artist would be a debate of hard work versus the easy way out.
Let’s face it boys… Some of us will always opt for the easy way out and some of us will enjoy the learning process because of the amount of self worth that we will obtain from actually going out and confronting all of our fears and anxieties, for working on our inner game, our fashion, deservedness and the like. I am not going to judge anyone. Each person is entitled to learn anyway he so choses and all the more power to them.
Now for the less so obvious reason… A reason that no one touched on and nor did I expect them to!
Students of the “Game” want me or other coaches to be that magic pill and they hold on to that idea so hard that it actually will sabotage their game altogether. But I am just a “temporary magic pill”, a band-aid of sorts that is just covering the wound. Let me explain.
The less obvious reason for taking the magic pill is in relation to one of the most common things I hear and get asked about by students and that question and or reason is what we in the pick-up community commonly call “sticking points.”
Sticking points are a funny things because 9 out of 10 times, what a student calls his sticking point isn’t really the problem at all. It is usually much deeper than just a simple, single problem he is having with his game and he tends to isolate that one problem and blame that one problem he can’t seem to overcome as the end all reason why he is not successful at picking up women. Hence getting a coaching client who wants me to help him get past a “sticking point.”
I always hear these words… “If I could just fix this ONE sticking point my game would be awesome.” Here’s what I have to say to that… BULLSHIT! Sorry about that guys but I’m not here to dumb things down. I spend hours on this blog to give guys the TRUTH and to help you through this arduous learning process. If you want someone to be nice to you when you what you really need is some tough love, then you should pick up the phone and call your mother.
I’m here to motivate you, teach you and challenge you to become better versions of yourself so that women will find you attractive and desirable.
These sticking points come in all shapes and sizes. From flakes, to kino, to escalation, to flirting, rapport, Day 2’s, etc… I’ve heard them all.
You see, I 100% can help you with whatever problem you may be having with your game and get you through that problem. That’s easy.I can and will make your game better. That’s easy as well. But what students want from me is for me and me alone is to fix themselves with very little work on their part. How can I coach you, if you aren’t willing to coach yourself? Makes you think, doesn’t it?
As a coach your success is a massive responsibility and I take this very responsibility very personally because I care so much about each and every one of you and put every once of love and energy into my 100’s of coaching sessions. You are trusting me to help you better yourself. The KEYWORD here is, YOURSELF.
When a student says he has a “STICKING POINT” what I really hear him saying is that his whole game/life is more than likely one giant sticking point. If it weren’t, he’d more than likely be able to transcend that one tiny area he’s putting all the blame on and get the desired results he’s looking for.
Pick-up is a WHOLE PICTURE that has more layers than an onion. It’s a puzzle that you need to figure out but you don’t have the box with the completed picture on it to look at. On the surface, when you first find the community we’re sold on some silly idea that if you learn some fancy openers and routines and tactics we’ll be able to fuck tons of hot ass chicks… BUT, we all know that isn’t the case now that we’ve been in it for a while. It’s so much more than a few lines and techniques.
Pick-Up is the most amazing form of self help there is. You’re lucky to be here. It forces you to work on just about every area of your life or you won’t be have the success you’ve envisioned for yourself. That takes a lot of guts! Congratulate yourself right now!
I’ve always said that when we first come to this genre of self-help we think it’s to fuck lots of chicks or find “the one” and only true love of our life and on some level that is true but on a deeper sub-conscious level you didn’t find the pick-up community…
IT FOUND YOU! And it found you so that you can grow as a person, build a stronger identity, challenge and question your limiting beliefs. You needed change!
It found you because there were things about yourself and the life you were living that weren’t adding up and you needed this type of self help to grow as a human being. As most of you have already realized there’s so much more to getting good with women than you bargained for? Correct? Raise your hand if you agree. This was defintely the case for me.
When I first arrived I thought, this is awesome! All I have to do is memorize some stuff and I’ll be fucking super hot chicks in no time at all, but little did I know what I was getting myself into. I have had to constantly work on myself through this whole process. Even up to today, I am still trying to advance in my learning both with women and in myself. I constantly challenge myself in all areas of my life.
I am NEVER to good or advanced to learn. Some of the most valuable things I’ve learned have actually come from students. Even though a student is learning from me, it doesn’t mean I can’t learn something from him. Whether it be some cute line he says to a girl or something he’s doing in his personal life that motivates me. I learn from just about everything.
I look at this process as a never ending learning process and quest for truth! It never ends. If you’re not constantly learning and growing, I would say that you are NOT living. What could be more attractive to a woman than a man who is a student of life and a man who is living from the heart? A man growing. Nothing.
As you grow and learn within this area of self-help, you will magically see sticking points fade away one by one. But sticking points are an integral part of growth and just when you think you’ve fixed one, another pops up. I love sticking points because it gives me something more to work on and learn from. Granted my game with women is awesome and I wouldn’t say I have any sticking points with that area but where I do still have sticking points is life in general and I love it! And if I don’t fix those, I’m sure my game with women will suffer.
Please… Challenge yourself to grow on all levels, welcome fear and anxiety as your best friends and get to know them personally. The better you know them, the better you’ll understand them, work through them and know yourself.
Ask for help when you need it, get the coaching you need because coaching is worth it’s weight in gold. That is why I am here. If it wasn’t for the coaching I have taken in the past, I wouldn’t have the game I do now… I will always be here for you whenever you need help but don’t expect me to fix you if you aren’t willing to fix yourself first.
I am not the magic pill!
The “magic pill” is YOU.
To Quote my good friend Phil…. “I am just the water to help you swallow that pill!”
Sincerely your friend,
ps… I’d love to hear your thoughts and views about what I have said and I’m sure so will countless of other people reading this blog. Please let me hear your voice and post your thoughts.