There are a lot of bad four letter words in this world or so people say (and I use and love just about all of them!). In reality a word is really just a sound, a vibration in the air that is caused by your esophagus and larynx. Can a vibration/ a sound-wave really have a positive or negative aspect to it? Think about it… To the mystics, everything is sound/vibration and every vibration has a force imbued within it. Just a force neither negative or positive. To the non-mystical sheeple a word can and does carry with it severe consequences and meaning when used either negatively or positively. So a definite YES for this party.
To me… A word is a word and should never be taken as insult or compliment to ones intellect. Actions tend to speak way louder than a word ever will unless you’re under hypnosis( you are feeling sleepy, very sleepy..lol) And I want to talk about the actions behind a particular word.
But I’m here not to debate over all the bad words or good words or to settle any argument over the above mentioned axioms. I’m here to defend with all of my heart and soul the one word I feel like gets the worst wrap when it comes to the wonderful world of seduction and pick-up! And that word is GAME and the meaning behind it and how the masses view it!
The word GAME already comes with a bad rap. Just think about it for a second. Have you ever used the word game in a positive way? People always say… ” I don’t like the games people play”, “I hate head games”, “I’m not here to play games”, ” I was gaming this chick!”, etc… And the word game also has an implied strategic non-genuine, carefully/skillfully thought out meaning to it. And thus… a 99% negative association attached to the word when it comes to pick-up and learning to get better with women.
The GAME as we call it in relation to seduction and pick up in my opinion is only referred to that title because of Mr. Neil Strauss and his book which started this movement on a level that could have never have been predicted. Neil is awesome man. I respect his writing, his character and his wonderful contribution to our ever expanding community of eager men to better themselves with women. So a giant THANK YOU to Neil. If it wasn’t for him I might never have been here in the first place. I owe him dearly!
Now, let’s talk about what the word actually means and why I feel as though I need to defend it! Time and time again when I tell women what I do and some men although very rare, I get a common reaction and that reaction is usually negative. Some women do in fact immediately love and respect me for helping men on their dating quests and recognize the value of what we at Brad P provide for our students. These women are usually high self esteem women, but like I was saying there is a vast majority of women who despise what I teach and preach(although they always sleep with me) and why do they despise what I do and teach??? Why do they hate the word GAME? The answer is simple… Like I said above, the word Game already has a negative association attached to it even with some of my students. The most common response to me telling them what I do is…
You’re giving guys pick-up lines and that’s dishonest! You’re teaching guys how to “trick” women into bed with them! It’s all fake! That’s pretty scummy! I don’t want to use any routines. I don’t feel congruent with attraction material… And the list goes on and on.. I’m sure you get the idea…
WHAT WOMEN AND SOME MEN WILL NEVER REALIZE IS THAT…
MEN HAVE NEVER BEEN TAUGHT WHAT WOMEN WANT… MEN HAVE NEVER BEEN TAUGHT WHAT WOMEN DESIRE… MEN HAVE NEVER BEEN TAUGHT WHAT A WOMAN NEEDS TO HEAR… MEN HAVE NEVER BEEN TAUGHT WHAT IS ATTRACTIVE BEHAVIOR TO WOMEN… MEN HAVE NEVER BEEN TAUGHT HOW TO PLEASE A WOMAN SEXUALLY… MEN HAVE NEVER BEEN TAUGHT HOW TO APPROACH A WOMAN OF HIS DESIRE IN A WAY THAT DOESN’T SCARE HER OFF OR CREEP HER OUT! AND YOU CAN NEVER TRICK A WOMAN INTO BED!!!!
I don’t know about the rest of you guys but when I went to grade school, then high school and then college I never had the luxury of taking a class on female psychology, i.e. GAME… My school didn’t offer me a class on how to attract women into my life… My school didn’t offer any classes on how to act around women and what to say to them! My school didn’t teach me the first thing about walking up to a woman or how to be a better lover. Maybe, if in school we “MEN” had some classes devoted to social dynamics and female psychology there wouldn’t be a need for dating education outside of the school framework.
The closest thing I EVER GOT TO DATING EDUCATION was given to me by my Mother and by other girls… Here is that lesson in it’s entirety!!! Get out your pens and paper and take some notes school is now in session!!!
“Just go tell her that she’s beautiful and ask her to a movie or dinner!”
There it is boys and girls… My entire dating education in one sentence before the seduction community! I’m sure most of you guys took that same class… And after taking that exquisite dating class did we graduate? Did we actually go and ask that girl out by telling her that she’s pretty? HELL NO WE DIDN’T… And why not??? Because we were scared shitless and it DOESN’T WORK!!!
So, women are always saying that they just want a guy to walk up to them and be interesting and say something funny. They also complain that they just want to meet a guy who can please them in bed. They say, I just want a man to be a man. They also say, why are guys so needy? They say, he’s really nice but not for me. They say, OMG this guy just talked about the creepiest things the whole date. They say, He was the most boring date ever! They say, I have to tell him exactly what to do to make me orgasm…
If you were to try and learn what women want and don’t want on your own with trial and error, I’m willing to bet by the time you learned how to attract women into your life and please them mentally and sexually you’d be too old to even get an erection… It would be next to impossible to learn this all on your own!
I don’t know about you but I’m sorta seeing a GIANT contradiction here?!?!?! Women want all these things from guys but they think it’s creepy and weird if a guy studies what women want so they can give it to her! My head is spinning right now as I writet this… I wonder if I’ve got this right? If a guy is naturally attractive to women than that’s ok but if he learns from some one else he’s creepy or a scum bag??? But I’ve got news for women and haters of GAME who think that a man is and can be naturally attractive to women. NO SUCH THING LADIES…. There are some so called “naturals” who are just great with women but even these naturals aren’t so natural. Naturals are only naturals because they learned what works and what doesn’t work on their own. Naturals tend to use the same lines on women over and over and over again. Naturals tend to use the same techniques on women all the time. Naturals really aren’t so natural at all. They learned what women are attracted to all by themselves, they figured out what works and what doesn’t and STUCK WITH THE WINNING FORMULA AND WILL NEVER DEVIATE…
So, getting back to learning what women want and need to be happy in a relationship regardless of labels. Why is it so bad that men who have never learned what women want and need finally take some initiative to better please women? If at all, I would say that this is one of the greatest things a man can do for women and for himself. It should be applauded and not shunned upon. A man being persecuted for wanting, learning and studying to better please women who has never learned how to attract women or please them mentally as well as sexually is one big injustice! A man being ashamed of himself for wanting to learn how to succeed with women should stand-up for himself and be proud for taking the steps necessary to finally achieving his goals! There is nothing wrong or embarrassing about this genre of self help. There are so many things in life which we need to be educated on. Even when we are little boys and girls the education is being forced upon us left and right. Sit at the table properly. Fork in the left hand, knife in the right. Say thank you. Make sure you share. That’s a bad word. Look both ways before crossing the road. If we forget these societal rules when we get older we can take etiquette classes to better learn manners and appropriate behavior. Is this education a bad thing? After all we’re learning how to act in a more appropriate manor and be more pleasing to others from some one other than oursleves. No, it’s not a bad thing, it’s actually admirable. If you take a class with your wife or girlfriend on massage or how to please each other better in bed is that a bad thing? Nope! It’s only bad if a man studies it on his own? Why? If a man walks up to a woman and says something witty and funny on his own with no prior dating education is it bad or wrong? NOPE! It’s HOT! It’s only bad if a man studies and learns what to say to a woman from some one other than himself.
Sure, I teach guys what’s attractive to women, how to become more confident members of society, how to please the objects of their desire, how to dress, how to fulfill their desires and their partners desires in bed and in a long-term relationship and I’m fucking proud of it! Sure, I learned from others how to be this way and how many women have benefitted from my education, how many women have I made happy, how many women have I became eternal friends with, how much excitement and joy have I brought to their lives and how many women still love me?
In conclusion… The word GAME isn’t such a bad word, now is it? After all, there are always two sides to the story. Which are you going to choose?